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Masturbating together: the best sex toys!

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26-05-2021 · 1315 views · 0 comments

You masturbate. Your partner masturbates. So why not masturbate together? Masturbating together makes sex more exciting and gives your sex life an extra boost. Especially when you throw some spicy sex toys into the mix. So introduce your vibrating friend to your partner!

Letting go of shame

Yep, masturbation is an act of self-love, but who says you can’t share that love by having solo sex together? It’s not just intense, it also sometimes makes reaching a climax easier.

Stigma surrounding solo sex

Many couples find it difficult to be honest about masturbation. They delete their browser history after they’ve watched porn and keep their toys hidden from their partner. The reason? Well, some people don’t want to their make their partner feel insecure. But most people simply feel ashamed when it comes to solo sex.

We’ve always been taught that masturbation is something you do on your own, in your room. Understandable, but hiding it does create a veil of shame around the subject. For many couples, solo sex is something you do secretly when the other isn’t around. That’s a shame, because masturbation can have an amazing impact on your sex life. Even when you do it together!

You are the expert

Although mutual masturbation can mean something different for every couple, the basics are simple; you’re pleasuring yourself while your partner watches or pleasures themselves as well at the same time. Interaction is not necessary, it’s about feeling connected to each other’s lust and pleasure. Solo play is therefore a super sexy way of getting to know each other’s bodies.

Of course you feel vulnerable when you let your fingers slide down your body while your partner watches you from a distance. In the beginning you may feel a little uncomfortable or inhibited, like you have to put on some show for your partner. But it can also feel quite powerful, because you embrace your own sexuality and have the opportunity to show your partner exactly what to do down there. After all, who knows more about your senstive spots than you? You’re the expert of your own body and you don’t have to hide that.

Why mutual masturbation?

Masturbation is one of the best ways to relax and get to know your body. Are you going to let your partner watch or are you watching your partner pleasure themselves? It’s hard to imagine a more exciting form of self-discovery. Masturbating together gives you the space to show yourself in a way that’s more intimate and arousing than ever.

Most intimate game you can play

Is there anything more personal than watching your partner taking themselves to a climax? It’s not just super arousing to watch the other person play with themselves, it also makes you feel connected to each other in a completely different way. It’s the most intimate game you can play with your partner. You allow your partner to watch and listen to what you normally only dare to do behind closed doors. That idea alone can catapult you to a state of total ecstacy and that mix of vulnerability and strength is hot as hell.

Sexy form of sex eduction

At the same time, it’s the sexiest form of sex education. When you watch your partner pleasure themselves and they, in turn, watch you, you can learn from each other and pick up some new tricks. If you add this to your sex repertoire, you can both become better lovers to each other. Because let’s be honest, there’s nobody who can finger you as well as you can yourself. Now you can both put your new skills to use the next time you have sex together.

Other benefits!

1. Guaranteed climax

Okay, if you feel uncomfortable, it’s probably difficult to get into that ‘yes..yes…yessss’ state. But if you let go of your inhibitions, there is nothing standing between you and a sensational orgasm. After all, you are in complete control!

2. Nothing wrong with watching or being watched

We’re all curious about what our partner does when they’re alone. And deep down we want our partner to watch us too. It’s super sexy for your partner to spy on you in your most vulnerable state, just like it’s extremely arousing for you to watch your partner play with themselves. So let that inner voyeur and exhibitionist out, you know you want to!

3. The best sex education ever

Get ready for dazzling sexual skills after you’ve had solo sex together. By masturbating together, you find out what your partner really likes. And you can be sure that your partner is going to love it when you shamelessly show them which movements and touches give you that heavenly feeling. There is no better way to take your sex life to the next level. After all, you both want the other to experience as much pleasure as possible, right?

4. Kinky fantasies

Total surrender is a great experience, especially in the bedroom. And if you open the door to mutual masturbation, you enter a world of naughty possibilities. Think about kinky fantasies, like roleplay, threesomes or group sex for example. Touching yourself in the presence of another person effortlessly increases your naughtiness to the highest levels. So yeah, you can masturbate together to create a deeper connection. But you can also do it to finally act on those kinky fantasies.

5. Sex toys!

When you let your fingers wander when you’re alone, you often take that sex toy out of your bedside table for some extra stimulation or to make your orgasm more intense. But do you ever fantasize about using sex toys while having sex with your partner? And is your partner not really open to that idea? Then mutual masturbation is the best way to warm your partner up to the idea of using sex toys!

The best sex toys to use together

Do you know exactly how to pleasure yourself? And have you shown that to your partner as well? Then perhaps it’s time to take those sex toys out of your bedside table.

There’s no reason for you to only use your sex toys when you’re alone. You can use them to play with yourself and show your partner what you like. You have to admit that the arousing sensation a high-end sex toy offers you can’t always be recreated with fingers, tongues or genitals. When it comes to sex, sex toys are the icing on the cake.

Finger vibrators and G-spot vibrators

But what do you choose if you want to intensify that intimate feeling of mutual masturbation? Of course there are vibrators in all shapes and sizes, from modest to immensely huge and from mild vibrations to intense earthquakes. A good G-spot vibrator helps you experience that ultimate orgasm deep inside. With the bent tip of this golden vibrator you can be sure that it effortlessly reaches that mysterious spot every time. Meanwhile, the bunny ears tickle your clitoris for even more intense orgasms.

A finger vibrator can also be used for next level orgasms that thunder through your body for a while. The best thing about this finger friend? That it’s suitable for both men and women. The powerful vibrations are great for stimulating the clitoris, the nipples, the penis or the scrotum. Perfect for mutual masturbation!

Solo sex at a distance

Do you want to use sex toys for the first time? Then it’s a good idea to choose a toy that’s not as intimidating as hyper realistic dildos. Like a soft pink air pressure vibrator for an explosive clitoral orgasm for example. You can use it on every sensitive spot on your body and with eleven air pressure levels, you are undoubtedly going to experience many overwhelming orgasms.

Perhaps you and your partner are in different countries. Do you want your partner to play a role in your solo play? It’s possible! Go for the We-Vibe Chorus. This is a vibrator you can control from a distance with an app that is available worldwide, so you can pleasure each other without physically being together. Is there anything more exciting than your partner controlling the vibrations of your sex toy from miles away? Your partner can even control the rhythm and intensity, so prepare yourself for sensational video sex dates!

Also read: Long-distance sex: these toys make it possible

Penetration and masturbation at the same time? Of course!

The We-Vibe Chorus is also perfect for using with your partner when you’re together. The toy is worn by the female partner and sits comfortable on the G-spot and clitoris. Since you don’t have to use your hands, your partner can penetrate you while the vibrator does what it should. In fact, your partner will also feel the vibrations when he is inside you. The We-Vibe is partially inserted into the vagina, which doesn’t just make the vagina narrower, but also stimulates the penis with vibrations.

Cock rings

Of course masturbating together isn’t just about your pleasure. Your partner deserves some pleasure as well, right? So why not surprise him with a cock ring? A cock ring provides longer-lasting erections by partially restricting the blood flow in the penis. Some penis rings even feature a vibrating stimulator that touches your clitoris during penetration. We admit, that’s not part of solo sex, but it’s good to know anyway.

By the way, has your partner discovered the pleasures of anal stimulation yet? There are countless prostate vibrators on the market that are perfect for arousing anal play. For men, this is even the ultimate road to an intense P-spot orgasm, so subtly place a naughty gift on his pillow and make sure he can let go of his shame and inhibitions.

Buying sex toys online

Convinced of the benefits of sex toys during mutual masturbation? Good news: our online shop has everything you want or need for a perfect solo sex session. Find the sexiest products here!

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Masturbating together: the best sex toys!