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Using a vibrator for the first time. This is how!

Linda

03-06-2021 · 1808 views · 0 comments

You want to experiment, so you decide to buy a vibrator. Fun, but also a little scary! You’re looking for that one toy that’s perfect for you and let’s be honest: you have high expectations. How do you make sure your first time using a vibrator will be success? And how do you know if you made the right choice? Throw the stigmas overboard and enjoy the liberating experience of using a vibrator for the first time. With the following tips, your vibrator is going to become your best friend.

Using a vibrator for the first time: tips

The time has come: your package has been delivered and your new vibrator is ready to be used. With these tips to guide you, you are going to enjoy every moment to the fullest!

Charge your toy

An empty battery is a huge mood killer. So make sure your toy is completely charged. If your toy is battery-operated, insert new batteries. Don’t use those half-empty batteries you’ve just taken out of your TV remote control. Your vibrator works best with charged or new batteries.

It’s an experience, not a race

Enjoy the whole experience. A vibrator is not a tool to get an orgasm as quickly as possible but is meant to provide great pleasure. So plan a solo date night. For example, take a warm bath with your favourite bath oil, create the right playlist, and light some candles for a sensual ambience. Then go to the bedroom or use your waterproof vibrator in the bath.

Get sufficiently aroused first

If you’re not aroused yet, there’s no point in using your vibrator. Compare it to a man trying to penetrate you when your vagina is still dry: it doesn’t work and it’s uncomfortable. The same goes for your vibrator. So wait until you’re in the mood.

Use your imagination

Don’t expect your vibrator to do all the work for you: in order to get aroused you still need to use your imagination. Women are often more stimulated by words than visuals, which is why audio porn is very popular among women. Another good option: reading erotic stories. You can find many erotic stories online. Fantasizing is a great way to arouse yourself as well. Fantasize about that handsome colleague and what you would do with him if you were alone in the storage room for example. This may be a no-go in real life, but in your imagination everything is possible. Finally, there is also porn and porna: easily accessible on your phone and very arousing to many women.

Vary your techniques and sex positions

It may seem strange to think about sex positions when we’re talking about solo sex, but it isn’t. By experimenting with positions, you can find out what you like. And maybe you can more easily reach your G-spot when you’re on your knees instead of lying on your back. If you always do the exact same thing, your body is going to get used to it and you are going to have to keep doing it in order to reach a climax. By varying your techniques, you can teach your body to reach a climax in various ways.

Use lubricant

Lubricant is always a good idea. It makes your toy glide inside easily and prevents pain. Water-based lubricant is suitable for use with every type of vibrator and doesn’t stain your bedding. Silicone lubricant stays smooth for a longer period of time, but can only be used in combination with vibrators that aren’t made of silicone. Especially in the shower or bath, silicone lubricant is a must, because water-based lubricant immediately dissolves in water.

Don’t be disappointed…

…if you don’t reach a climax the first time. Remind yourself that it’s about the overall sexual experience and not just the orgasm. Besides, it was your first time and both your body and mind still need to get used to this new form of stimulation.

Also read: Masturbation is the new meditation

Clean it thoroughly

You have to clean your vibrator after every use. It’s a little sobering, but it’s the only way to keep your toy in perfect shape, so you can use it again whenever you want without any hassle. The best way to clean it is by using toy cleaner. This prevents bacteria from negatively affecting the material.

Vibrators in all shapes and sizes

Years ago, when we were talking about ‘the vibrator’, we meant a penis-shaped device that could vibrate. Then the rabbit vibrator was created, which not just offered internal stimulation, but also stimulated the clitoris. Now there are countless different vibrators: one or more motors, clitoris or G-spot stimulation, pulsating, thrusting, small, large, and powerful. Every type has different versions and is available at various price levels. Below are descriptions of the most popular vibrators, so you can find your perfect first vibrator.

Rabbit vibrator

Let’s start with a classic: the Rabbit vibrator. It’s called a rabbit because of the two ‘ears’ that stimulate your clitoris. This type of vibrator is perfect for women who enjoy internal stimulation, but also need clitoral stimulation in order to reach a climax. As you know, that’s almost all women. The classic rabbit vibrator is a colourful toy that looks like a penis and features rotating beads in the shaft, as well as the aforementioned bunny ears. The modern version looks a little more sleek, but works the same way.

Clitoris vibrator

Clitoris vibrators come in many shapes and sizes, like stimulators, clitoris vibrators, and air pressure vibrators. The former is a vibrator for external use that you place on your clitoris. Some feature a special magnet that you can use to attach the the vibrator to your panties. Then there are air pressure vibrators: the it-girl among sex toys and as far as we’re concerned, a vibrator that every woman should try once in her life. An air pressure vibrator has a small opening that you place on your clitoris. The toy then uses air pressure waves to stimulate your clitoris. And believe us, there’s a reason it’s the most popular sex toy at the moment.

Wand vibrator

What was once sold as a neck massage device quickly transformed into a clitoris stimulator. The large massage rod was somewhat reduced in size and manufacturers started creating various attachments that you could use to stimulate your G-spot for example. A wand massager is a powerful vibrator that is known for being able to give women who have trouble reaching a climax intense orgasms.

G-spot vibrator

Your G-spot is not easy to reach with your fingers. Still, it’s definitely worth stimulating this spot. The G-spot is the other end of your clitoris and if you stimulate it, you can experience intense orgasms. A G-spot vibrator has a bent tip that points towards your belly when you’re on your back. That tingling sensation in your lower belly and vagina? That’s your G-spot.

Small vibrator

If you don’t have any experience with penetration, a small vibrator might be a good choice for you. You can use it to penetrate yourself step by step if you want. But bullet vibrators aren’t just for penetration; they are also great for stimulating your clitoris and other erogenous zones, like your nipples.

Anal vibrator

If you’re going to try anal penetration for the first time, it’s a good idea to slowly get used to the sensation with an anal vibrator. Your anus can’t get wet by itself, so use plenty of lubricant to avoid pain and small ruptures. It’s recommended to slowly stretch your anus, for example with a finger or a butt plug. Then you can stimulate your anus with a special anal vibrator or a ‘regular’ vibrator that’s also suitable for anal use.

Also read: The best high-end sex toys for women

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Using a vibrator for the first time. This is how!