Sex with handcuffs: how do you go about it?


Are you ready to add some spice to your sex life? Handcuffs are the way to go if you want more excitement and arousal in the bedroom. From fluffy pink handcuffs for beginners to sexy cuffs made of leather for experienced users: handcuffs are a great addition to your sex life. In this article you can read everything you need to know about how to have sex with handcuffs.

Handcuffs: part of bondage

Whether you get aroused by roleplay where one partner dresses as the sexy cop and arrests the other partner or you simply want to explore your dominant side: handcuffs always add something new and exciting. They are made of different types of materials and you can even use them in various ways. So whether you like vanilla sex or BDSM: handcuffs are always a good idea!

Dominance and control

When your partner ties you up, they have control over you. The exciting thing about this is that your lover can do things to you without you being able to stop it. Teasing with a tickler or stimulating the nipples with an ice cube? The one who is tied up has no choice but to experience it and is therefore the submissive partner in that moment. Of course we’re talking about a relationship with equal partners here and it’s always important not to do anything against your or your partner’s will.

More intense stimulation

The one who is tied up can’t use their hands to caress their partner’s body, grab their bum, or touch their genitals. In other words, you focus more on your own bodily sensations and your own pleasure. You don’t have to worry about what to do with your partner, because there’s nothing you can do.

Sex with handcuffs: how do you go about it?

Does the idea of tying your partner up appeal to you? Does the thought of not being able to use your hands arouse you? Explore your dominant or submissive side by adding handcuffs to your lovemaking sessions!


Good communication is key, especially if one of you is going to be tied up. Tell your partner that you want them to tie you up and why that idea arouses you. If you want to tie up your partner with handcuffs, explain why and ask your partner what they think about it. It’s always important to communicate your desires and potential fears and how far you or your partner is allowed to go when one of you is tied up. A safe word can help you in the heat of the moment.

Handcuffs for beginners

If you want use sexy handcuffs for your first bondage adventure, but don’t want to go all-in with metal or leather cuffs, choose something that is less intimidating, like fluffy plush handcuffs in fun colours like pink and purple. Satin handcuffs are a great option as well, as they are very soft and easy to use. They are ribbons made of satin-like material that you can tie yourself.

Handcuffs for experienced users

If you’ve outgrown plush handcuffs and you want to go a step further, go for leather or metal handcuffs. Leather handcuffs are often very comfortable to wear and much sturdier than beginner cuffs. If you’re into BDSM, leather handcuffs are a good choice. Nowadays there are even handcuffs available made of vegan leather.

Metal cuffs are solid and are a little less comfortable around your wrists. They are sturdy however and perfect for that ‘real’ handcuff experience. And of course they go perfectly with cop roleplay. Also, metal handcuffs are inexpensive. Just make sure you remember where you put the keys!

You bought handcuffs… so now what?

Sex with handcuffs can be done in various ways. Perhaps you already have a vision of yourself being chained to the bed, but of course you don’t have to go down that route. Start slow, for example by tying one hand to the bed. This way you can experience what it’s like to be chained to the bed with one hand. Does it arouse you? Then you can go a step further.

The Missionary sex position is very suitable if you want to use handcuffs. Even though your hands are tied together, you can still place them around your lover’s neck.

Want to go a step further? It can be very arousing to use handcuffs while being blindfolded. This makes it even more difficult to anticipate what is going to happen next and it increases pleasure in general. This is a perfect situation if you and your partner enjoy using ice cubes or bodypaint. If you want to make it even more exciting, you can also use ankle cuffs to tie up your feet. You can use a hogtie for this as well. This restricts your movements even more and your partner can do anything they want with you.

Want to buy sexy handcuffs? Check our assortment!

Do you want to buy sexy handcuffs for some extra excitement in the bedroom? Pabo has everything you need. Go for pink handcuffs or cuffs with leopard print, or go all the way with sturdy leather cuffs. Also good to know: our packages are shipped discreetly and our shop name isn’t anywhere on the box, so nobody finds out what you ordered.

Also read: BDSM for beginners: all BDSM rules in one overview

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