Merry Christmas and a happy new you!

The end of the year is in sight and most houses are decorated with colourful lights and a beautiful Christmas tree. The gifts under the tree pile up and you can enjoy the peace and warmth that make these cold and dark days so pleasant. The holidays bring a loving serenity to your home. This gives you some time to reflect on the past year and to go ahead and take the first step into the future. Time for a good dose of self-reflection.

Take some time to look back

The holidays are a period of warmth, love, and peace. It’s the perfect time to reconnect with yourself and push the chaos of your busy life aside for a moment. That’s why this is the best time for evaluation and reflection. Make yourself comfortable, light a candle, and grab a pen and paper to properly look back on your turbulent year. By taking notes, you create a starting point for your moment of reflection next year. It will give you insight into your own progress and growth. 

Consciously grow together or solo

Reminiscing on your own or together with your partner can be an effective way of being more aware of your own personal growth and it also provides a good foundation and solid ground for your future. Especially when you reminisce together, you’ll notice that is has a positive effect on your relationship and makes your relationship that much stronger. Both conscious personal growth and conscious growth as a couple make you unique and strong as a person and as a couple, which means self-reflection isn’t just beneficial to you, but to your relationship as well. 

Focus on the positive

It’s temping to look back on the things you’re not happy with in your life, relationship, or career. But, in the spirit of Christmas, try to give it a positive spin: what gave you positive energy this year? What made you truly happy? Of course it’s okay to reflect on the things that you could do better in the future, but put the main focus on what brought you joy this year. By being aware of what makes you happy and of the specific character traits that you’re proud of, you learn to love yourself more and more, which has a positive influence on your ability to self-reflect. Hold on to this warm feeling during the holidays and allow yourself to feel this love. Embracing the happy moments makes you a strong person and gives you courage and energy to grow even more. 

“By being aware of what makes you happy and the specific character traits that you’re proud of, you learn to love yourself more and more.”

Study your sexual journey

A moment of self-reflection gives you the opportunity to improve your self-awareness in every part of your life. Think of parts of your life like your career, health, or spare time. Considering where you stand and where you want to go when it comes to your love life and sexuality can lead to a lot of satisfaction. Take your time in studying your sexual journey. By reflecting on the sexual path that you’re on, you can learn a lot about yourself, your partner, and all your preferences.

Your sexual awareness can be an important aspect of gaining insight into your personal growth. Your sexuality is an integreal part of who you are. It pays off to embrace your unique sexuality as an important part of your identity. 

Setting goals and self-acceptance

By looking back at your choices and accomplishments, you gain a clear insight into your drive, passion, and self-acceptance. If you want to facilitate personal growth, it can be helpful to set goals for yourself. Think about what kind of goals will help you grow as a person. Take your boundaries and limitations into account as well. Setting goals can be very beneficial, but only if they’re realistic and achievable. Accept what you can’t change and focus on what you can successfully achieve.  

Also read: The importance of self-love

“Accept what you can’t change and focus on what you can successfully achieve.”

Think about new things that you want to try to ignite your sense of adventure and make new discoveries. You can make a list of everything you still want to do or try. Make sure it’s a list that you can complete in one year. 

Sexual bucketlist

To help you explore your sexual self, it’s helpful to create a sexual bucketlist for 2021. Come up with anyhting you want want to try in order to find out if it gives you pleasure. It’s even more exciting to do this with a partner. Just the thought of trying out new things, like a threesome, experimenting with BDSM, or using an exciting new toy, can already bring you joy and pleasure in and of itself. With this, you won’t just have set goals for yourself, but it’s even more fun to actually work on these goals.

“Just the thought of trying out new things, like a threesome, experimenting with BDSM, or using an exciting new toy, can already bring you joy and pleasure in and of itself.”

Also read: ‘Picnic sex’: long live choice of freedom

Broaden your horizon

Make good use of the time you have for yourself during the holidays by taking a moment for self-reflection. There’s more than enough to discover about yourself if you look back on the past year. And when you’re done, go ahead and broaden your horizon for next year. Merry Christmas and a happy new you!