First time masturbation for women: our tips

When you are young, it is normal that you want to start exploring what you like when it comes to sexual pleasure. And even when you get older you can learn how to masturbate. In this blog post, we will share tips for women about masturbating. How do you start, which techniques are available, and what can you use to stimulate yourself?

Female masturbation: what is it exactly?

Masturbation is also called self-pleasuring or solo sex. While masturbating, you touch yourself in places that give you sexual pleasure. An orgasm is often the goal of solo sex. Women who masturbate usually do this by fingering themselves, but there are also other ways to do it. We will tell you more about this later.

It is exciting to start masturbating for the first time. Whether you are a young girl or a woman, it is important to know that many women masturbate. It is very normal and it isn’t strange or taboo. Flemish research indicates that half of all girls in Belgium have started masturbating before the age of 14.5. The research also concluded that, on average, women masturbate one or more times per month.

Solo sex can have a positive influence on your (future) sex life. This is because you already know what you like, so you can guide your partner in the right direction. Even if you are already in a relationship, it is normal to keep masturbating. You can do this both with or without your partner.

First time masturbation for women: how do you start?

You can pleasure yourself by stimulating your erogenous areas. This is not just your clitoris; your vulva and labia are also part of it. Breasts, nipples, and buttocks are sensitive spots that women like to touch during solo sex as well.

It is good to be aroused on some level before you start masturbating. There are various ways of getting in the mood for solo sex. Perhaps you are curious and you decide to pleasure yourself one day while lying in bed, because someone aroused you. It is also possible that you just read an exciting story on the internet or in a magazine that made you feel horny. Or you just watched a porn video, which triggered the need to masturbate.

At a time like that you can start by caressing your breasts. Does this feel pleasant? Does it arouse you and do your nipples get hard? Rub them with your fingers or gently squeeze them. This way, you will find out what you like.

Learning how to masturbate for women

Many girls learn to masturbate by rubbing something on their vulva and clitoris, like a pillow or a stuffed animal. You can do this when you are lying on your back, or by lying on your belly and rubbing the pillow with your lower body. The goal is to summon that arousing feeling you get when your clitoris is stimulated. It is also possible that you are aroused by something completely different. When you start learning how to masturbate, it is all about finding out what works for you, trying everything out, and focussing on yourself.

When you get aroused, your vagina becomes wet. This makes every touch feel even more pleasant. It also makes it easier to slide your finger, or possibly a vibrator or penis, inside your vagina. If your vagina doesn’t feel wet, you can also use a little lubricant when you start touching yourself.

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Masturbation techniques

Use your fingers

Stimulation of the clitoris is often what leads to an orgasm. Both fingering and cunnilingus focus on stimulating your clitoris. And you can easily finger yourself. Rub two or three fingers on and around your clitoris, or trace circles around it. The female sex organ is fairly large, but on the outside, between your labia, you will only find the clitoris. By rubbing it faster and faster, you will get more and more aroused. If you keep going, you will reach your climax. Your muscles will tense and you will experience a wonderful feeling.

During fingering, one or more fingers are often inserted in the vagina. This provides a pleasant sensation. By moving your fingers in the direction of your belly button and stomach, it is even possible for women to stimulate their G-spot during masturbation. This spot is extra sensitive and has a ribbed texture. If you can’t reach it with your fingers, it is also possible to use a special G-spot vibrator. Stimulation of your G-spot can also lead to an orgasm. This will take a little getting used to in the beginning, but we can definitely recommend trying it.

In the shower

The powerful water jets coming out of the shower head can be very stimulating. If you own a bathtub with a removable shower head, then that is the easiest way to masturbate. But you can do it in the shower as well: sit down or lean against the wall. Spread your legs and enjoy the sensation of the water jets. Before you start, make sure the water isn’t too hot and the water pressure isn’t too powerful.

With a sex toy

A sex toy isn’t necessary for masturbation, but it can be an exciting addition. Sometimes a sex toy can make it easier to reach a climax. There are many different kinds of sex toys for women to use during masturbation. The most well-known toys are vibrators and dildos. A dildo is mainly used for internal stimulation and a vibrator for both internal and external stimulation. The most important difference is that a vibrator is provided with vibrations and has different speeds. A dildo doesn’t vibrate.

If you are a virgin and you don’t want to use a vibrator or dildo for internal stimulation, then take a look at sex toys made for clitoral stimulation. These are used externally. Air pressure vibrators are very popular at the moment. They have a special opening with a soft cap for your clitoris. The clitoris is stimulated using air pressure waves. These types of clitoris vibrators simulate oral sex. It is also possible to stimulate your clitoris with a wand vibrator. A wand vibrator is a kind of massage stick. You can put the round head on your most sensitive spots. If at some point you want to go a step further and add internal stimulation, you can still use the wand vibrator to penetrate the vagina with a special attachment.

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The advantages of female masturbation

Did you know that masturbating is very healthy? By masturbating and having an orgasm, your body relaxes. This improves your sleep. And in turn, that has a positive influence on your memory. Are you under a lot of stress and is it hard for you to get a good night’s sleep because of it? Or do you have a headache caused by stress? Try masturbating and find out if it offers some relief.

By masturbating, you will also feel happier. This is because of endorphin, a hormone that is released when you’re aroused. And when you get an orgasm, the hormone oxytocin is released. Oxytocin is known for its calming and stress-relieving effect.