First time lesbian sex: tips for the best experience

If you’re going to have sex with another woman for the first time, you probably want to know what to expect. Maybe this is your first time having sex at all or perhaps you’ve already had sex before with a man. What can you expect when you have sex with another woman for the first time? It’s an exciting experience, but it can be a little daunting as well. We will tell you everything you need to know.

First time lesbian sex

You’ve met a fantastic woman and you expect to do more than kissing very soon. What can you expect? What will she like? What are the possibilities? And how do you go about it? Don’t worry, we’ll help you out!

Talk to each other

Talk to each other about your desires. Your partner is probably very capable of telling you what she likes and what she doesn’t. If you’re nervous about talking about it when you’re ‘sober’, try to have the conversation when you’re sexually aroused. Your arousal will take away most of your nerves, which makes it easier to talk about sex and desires. Ask your partner if it’s okay if you insert your finger in her vagina and ask if she enjoys it. Maybe she will guide your fingers a little. Don’t take this as an insult, because it can actually be very helpful.

Also read: Talking about your sexual desires

Stimulate her erogenous zones

A woman’s erogenous zones are, among others, her breasts and nipples, the inside of her thighs, and of course her clitoris, labia, and vagina. By touching, caressing, kissing, and licking her erongenous zones, you can easily increase her arousal.

Take it slow

If you’re having sex for the first time, know that you can take it as slow as you want. There is no reason to go all the way immediately. Especially if your partner already has some experience, she will understand you are nervous and need to take your time. Simply kissing your partner, caressing her breasts, and fingering her can already be a great experience. Go as far as you are comfortable with and clearly set your boundaries.

These are the options for lesbian sex

Caressing, kissing, fingering, and performing cunnilingus are all possibilities if you have sex with another woman. If you want to add penetration to the mix, you can use a dildo or a vibrator. There are also specific sex positions that are great for women. The most well-known position is scissoring, where you rub your clitoris on your partner’s clitoris. However, this is certainly not the only option. Read more about the best sex positions for lesbian couples.

Get to know your own body

The advantage of having sex with another woman is that you can easily imagine what kind of stimulation works for her. You know how important clitoris stimulation is for example. And how pleasurable it can be when your partner touches your nipples the right way. By getting to know your own body, you will also be better able to pleasure your partner.

Cunnilingus

For most women, cunnilingus is the most nerve wracking aspect of having sex with another woman for the first time. Unfortunately, we can’t offer a step-by-step guide, because everyone is different. Our best advice is to start slow. Caress her labia with your tongue, circle around her clitoris, and gently suck her clitoris. You can also tease her by kissing her thighs when she’s about to orgasm. And then start stimulating her all over again of course.

What are your tips for women who are going to have sex with another woman for the first time?