Preventing you and your partner from growing apart

Keeping a relationship strong requires hard work. You’ve experienced many beautiful moments together and there will be many more in the future. Always try your best for your partner, be respectful, and make sure your sex life remains a priority. Sharing love and intimacy, communicating, and making time for each other will prevent you and partner from growing apart. Accept that there will be moments where you want strangle your partner. Having a relationship isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. However, dedication, open communication, and, above all, love will help you get through the hard times.

Always try your best for your partner

In good times, but certainly also in bad times, it’s important that you always try the best you can for your partner. Surprise him or her with a gift from time to time, or take your partner to a romantic place. If he or she is going through a tough period, show your love and be a listener. It’s the small things that will prevent you and your partner from growing apart. This is true for every day that you are together. There are moments that you want to kill your partner because you’re in a bad mood or because your partner is getting on your nerves. Even then, keep in mind that trying your best is what keeps your relationship healthy.

Make time for each other

If you want to prevent you and your partner from growing apart, it is important to keep working on your emotional connection. Make time for each other. Go on fun dates together, go on a night out, and keep communicating. Do you remember how you fell in love with each other and what you used to do together? Think back on that and go do the activities that you used to enjoy. Simply being with each other and enjoying each other’s company is good enough: you don’t have to go on fancy trips to faraway destinations to feel closer to each other.

Good sex is and always will be important

Your sex life needs to remain a priority in order to prevent you and your partner from growing apart. Sex is important. Intimacy makes you connect, love each other, and grow closer. It’s normal if your bedroom adventures slow down for a while. Especially if you’ve been together for a couple of years. But if it doesn’t pick up again, ask yourself ‘what is the cause of this?’ and talk about it. Make sure you always find each other again in the bedroom. Good sex and open communication when your erotic adventures slow down is important. Work on it together if you don’t want to grow apart.

Share your feelings with your lover

A loving, strong relationship and a good life comes with talking about your feelings. It’s difficult to be close to someone if you don’t know him or her that well anymore. At the start of their relationship, most couples share everything with each other: their fears, hopes, dreams, and feelings. If you stop doing that, you might start to feel very lonely, even when you’re together. Make sure you keep sharing your feelings, even when you don’t feel like talking. Is this difficult for you? Make some time every week to talk to each other, for example a whole evening or a couple of hours. Sharing your feelings, dreams, wishes, and fears makes sure you feel connected to each other. Supporting and motivating each other will follow naturally. Besides, it’s good to know that your partner always has your back when you need it.

Work on your own happiness

Staying happy and making yourself a priority: your happiness is an essential factor in preventing you and your partner from growing apart. If you’re not happy and don’t love yourself, how can you give everything to your relationship? If necessary, work on yourself. Find help if you need it. Do everything in your power to make you feel good about yourself. And be honest about how you’re feeling. In order to be happy and stay happy, it’s nice to be supported by your lover. And of course, that’s also true for your partner.

Growing together in life

Every phase of life is different. There’s always something to learn: on an emotional level, or perhaps something work or study related. And even your sex life goes through a learning curve. Help each other grow in life, because evolving as a couple should be done together. It doesn’t work if only one of you is working on being the best version of themselves, while the other is stuck in the same place. Encourage each other and be proud of what you both accomplish.

Accept that relationships aren’t easy

A couple that always has great sex, is always happy, and is always fond of each other simply does not exist, no matter what posts on social media might suggest. Every relationship has ups and downs. And that’s completely fine. Heated arguments, a lack of understanding, or moments that you really disagree with each other is normal in every relationship. It’s up to you to talk about it together and try to get on the same page again. Arguing is allowed, but don’t cross any lines and have respect for each other. Swearing is unnecessary. Understanding your partner’s perspective is important. A little bit of tension gives life its spark. And after an argument, hot make-up sex makes it all worth it.