Premature ejaculation: this is how to last longer in bed

Nothing is as unpleasant as premature ejaculation when you are having a good time with your partner. But we have some good news: this so-called premature ejaculation can be delayed. In this blog post, we will tell you everything about ejaculation. And of course we will offer tips to prevent climaxing too soon. Are you thinking, ‘I orgasm too soon’? Then read on!

Ejaculation

During ejaculation, sperm is released from the penis. This can happen during a wet dream or when you masturbate, but also during sex. Ejaculation happens in three stages. First there is the coming up, then the core phase and finally the ejaculation. Ejuculation often happens simultaneously with an orgasm. During the second phase, the core phase, the vas deferens tightens to prepare for ejaculation. This is the moment you want to delay to prevent premature ejaculation.

Why do you climax (too soon)?

Generally speaking, a man climaxes when he is sexually aroused and when stimulation goes on until ejaculation. If you want to delay ejaculation, you will have to temporarily stop stimulation. We call it premature ejaculation when you climax within a minute and can’t control it. Please note: it is only a problem if you decide it is. For most men, it is completely normal to orgasm within a few minutes. Not every man goes on for hours.

Premature ejaculation can be genetic. It can also be caused by performance anxiety or stress, making it easy to end up in a vicious circle.

Ways to prevent premature ejaculation

As you can read above, a man usually climaxes because of stimulation. The most obvious tip is therefore to temporarily stop stimulation. Or to considerably slow down stimulation. So stop penetrating your partner and focus your attention on him or her. At the same time, it can help to think of something that has no sexual qualities at all: the trash that needs to be taken out, a plate of cauliflower, your partner’s aunt… you get the point.

Tools for delaying ejaculation

There are many kinds of gels, sprays and creams to delay ejaculation. Additionally, there are also special orgasm delay condoms. If you’re thinking, ‘I climax too soon, what is the solution?’ then it’s a good idea to check out our products for delaying an orgasm. Delay sprays and orgasm delay creams and gels all have a numbing effect. Sometimes cooling, sometimes warming. Your penis will become less sensitive to touch and stimulation. Always wait for your skin to completely absorb the product and you start noticing the effect.

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  Boners Delay Cream
  Boners
  £21.40 £17.12
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  Genie In A Bottle COOL Delay Spray
  £12.84 £8.52
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  Rhino Long Power Cream 30 ml
  HOT
  £15.41 £9.52
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  Intome Marathon Power Cream - 30 ml
  Intome
  £11.13 £4.27

Orgasm delay condoms

Orgasm delay condoms are provided with the same kind of product on the inside. This can be gel or cream that warms, cools or numbs the penis. This makes the penis less sensitive to stimulation. Brands like Durex and Pasante have delay condoms in their collection.

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  Durex Performa 12st
  Durex
  £11.13 £7.49
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  Pasante Delay condoms 12 pcs
  Pasante
  £6.84
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  Sico Marathon - 50 Condoms
  £12.84
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  Performance Condoms - 10x
  £6.84

Exercises to prevent premature ejaculation

If simply stopping stimulation and thinking about something else doesn’t help to prevent ejaculation, you can also do some exercises. By masturbating for example. Do you feel a climax coming? Stop masturbating. You can also squeeze your glans for a short while to decrease stimulation. After that, you can start masturbating again. By practising this way, you will discover your limits. Are you able to delay ejaculation for a couple of minutes? Then it’s time to try it during sex. Your increased confidence at this point will likely help as well.

The second round!

What can also help is to keep going during sex, even after ejaculation. It is likely that it will take longer to climax the second time. In the meantime, give your partner the attention he or she deserves. Generally speaking, women need a little more time during foreplay and need longer to build up an orgasm. Penetration often does not lead to a climax for most women. Suffering from premature ejaculation therefore doesn’t have to be a problem for your partner. Focus on her pleasure by stimulating her clitoris.

Ask for help

It is important to realize that premature ejaculation can be a problem in a relationship. Note: it certainly doesn’t have to be. But if your partner does like to have sex for a longer period of time, ask a doctor or sexologist for help. A sexologist can help with exercises, like pelvic floor training and breathing techniques.