Anal sex: these are our 7 favourite anal sex positions

Anal sex is intensely intimate if you have the right partner. Luckily, it’s not as much as a taboo as it used to be. Anal sex can provide great pleasure to both men and women. Take it slow and enjoy the fun sex positions. We have listed 7 anal sex positions to inspire you. These tips were written from the perspective of a woman being penetrated by a man. But of course that doesn’t mean that they are limited to that combination: a woman can also penetrate a man or a woman with a strap-on and many of these sex positions are very suitable for gay couples as well.

1. On top

The best anal positions are where you as the receiver are on top and in control. This is especially true for beginners. Ask your partner to lie on their back and sit on top of them. Slightly bend your hips when you slowly lower yourself onto your partner’s penis or strap-on. You don’t have to go all the way. Only inserting the top part is also great. Does it feel good? Then you can slowly start to move. You can bend forward to kiss your partner or you can lean back and lean against your partner’s knees. Leaning back also allows you to stimulate your G-spot or A-spot really well.

2. Lying down dog

This relaxed version of doggy style is perfect for shallow penetration. It’s a great sex position if you’re a beginner starting to experiment with anal sex. Most nerve endings in the anus are located less than 5 centimeters deep, so this sex position offers great stimulation. Lie on your belly, lift up your bum slightly, and let your partner penetrate you from the back while they’re lying on top of you. They can place their elbows on the floor or the bed for balance.

3. In the shower

There is no better place to try anal sex for the first time than in the shower. The bathroom often feels like a safe space, especially if you worry anal sex might get messy. Also, the warmth of the water helps you relax your muscles, including your sphincter. Stand with your back to your partner, slightly bend forward, and allow your partner to slowly penetrate you. If you’re still too tense, start by kissing and caressing each other, and gently exploring your anal region. Let your finger glide inside, slowly move it around, and gradually stretch your anus. Does it feel good? Then you can go a step further.

4. Standing up

If you’re interested in standing sex positions, this is the best choice for you. It is perfect for shallow penetration, so the nerve endings in your anus are stimulated well. Lie down on the edge of your bed and ask your partner to lean against the edge. Tilt your pelvis, so your anus points towards your partner. Move your hips during penetration, so you and your partner can both control the speed and the movements.

5. Missionary with your legs up

Gazing into each other’s eyes while kissing and penetrating: the anal missionary position is very intimate. Lie on your back and lift your legs in the air, leaning against your partner’s shoulders. Want to make it easier? Pull your knees towards your face, so your anus will open up more. Play with your clitoris or penis, stimulate your nipples, and gaze into each other’s eyes.

6. The Wagon

The Wagon is a fun sex position. Sit in front of your partner with your back turned, in between their legs, and lean back until your bodies touch. Now your partner can slowly penetrate you from behind. This sex position is romantic and lovely, and is therefore very suitable for beginners. You as the receiver can partially control the depth of the penetration, which deepens the trust between you and your partner. This sex position is easiest to try on your bed or on a chair. Make sure your bodies are close together as if you’re spooning while sitting.

7. The Frog King

Are you looking for an anal sex position that is a little more challenging? You will need strength, control, and balance to successfully perform the Frog King. So if you’re in for some fun and exercise, we can recommend this sex position. Stand on the edge of your bed and squat down. Lean forward a bit and place your hands on the bed for stability. Ask your partner to stand behind you and hold your hips tightly for balance and to be able to thrust in your preferred rhythm. The Frog King offers deep penetration and your clitoris or penis is free to be stimulated with your hand or a sex toy.

Tips for your first anal experience

If you’ve never tried anal sex before, we recommend practising with your fingers or your partner’s fingers first. Toys like butt plugs can be used as well. And always remember: use plenty of lubricant. Your anus doesn’t produce any moisture when you are aroused, so you always need lots of lubricant. This makes penetration feel much more comfortable and it prevents you from damaging the sensitive skin of the anus.

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