Anal foreplay: what should I do and which sex toys should I use?

Anal foreplay is an indispensable part of anal sex. It can make or break the experience. It prepares your anus for an erotic session with or without penetration. Plus: you will enjoy the experience even more when you start anal sex with anal foreplay. In contrary to a vagina, an anus is not very flexible and not very wet. So foreplay is mostly about building up to penetration by stretching the anus with lubricant, a sufficient amount of rest, and suitable toys.

The basis of anal foreplay

Anal foreplay is like warming up before starting your work-out. Before you start anal foreplay, you need to know a couple of rules. The basis of anal foreplay consists of four points. We will name them all and then explain them one by one:

• Always use lubricant. It’s better to use too much than too little;
• Go for stimulating sex toys that are the right choice for your anal foreplay;
• Agree on anal sex: discuss your expectations and wishes beforehand, and maybe come up with a safe word;
• Take a lot of time to get used to it, to enjoy it, and to experiment.

No anal foreplay without lubricant

You already read it: during anal foreplay, lubricant is indispensable. The more, the better. The anus won’t get wet by itself, so you’ll have to make it wet yourself. This is essential in order to make penetration feel comfortable, but also to protect your skin from damage, such as tears in the skin. Your anus is sensitive and contains many nerve endings, as well as many muscles. The muscles play a major role in anal foreplay. Do you want to try anal penetration? Then stretching the anus and getting used to the feeling penetration provides is important. And for that, you need lubricant. For anal foreplay, you can use water-based lubricant, which is safe to use if you also want to use the lubricant internally. Another option is anal lubricant. This type of lubricant is thicker and is specially developed for anal sex. It is also the perfect choice if you are a little nervous: there are anal lubricants with a relaxing or numbing effect.

These toys are suitable for anal foreplay

What makes anal foreplay so much fun is the slow build-up featuring stimulation with fingers, tongue, and toys. Start with small sex toys, so your anus can get used to being stretched. The more experienced you become, the bigger toys you can use. When you are a beginner, the following toys are suitable to use:

• Butt plugs: go for a set, so you can vary in size and texture;
• A vibrating butt plug. It is guaranteed to make you go wild with pleasure, thanks to the optimal stimulation of the nerve endings in your anus;
• Anal beads are easy to insert and are perfectly designed for anal foreplay;
• Anal balloons are great to gradually stretch your anus. You can also use them vaginally, which makes them very versatile;
• Are you interested in sex toys? Then don’t forget to get a toy cleaner, so you can keep your toys clean and enjoy them again and again.

Tip: Are you afraid that you aren’t clean enough for anal sex? Then you can use an anal douche.

Take it slow

Anal foreplay can make or break your experience, especially when you try anal stimulation for the first time. Always keep in mind that a quickie is nice, but not when it comes to your anus. Always go slow when penetrating this opening. Anal sex can’t be compared to vaginal sex: your anus is one solid bundle of muscle that is not immediately ready for penetration on a whim. What’s more, it can put you (or your partner) off so much that you could develop an aversion to anal sex. And that’s a shame! Simply because anal stimulation is a great way to expand your sexual menu. Again: take your time, set your limits, and take a step back if necessary. The most important thing is that you can enjoy anal foreplay together with your partner.

Communication is key

During anal sex, it is important that both partners feel comfortable. When you start an exciting and perhaps new sexual experience, communication is key. Discuss your desires and anal inspiration, but also what you are dreading and what you will do if one of you doesn’t like it. For example, come up with a safe word, and emphasize that you can stop at any time. By talking to each other and also communicating during anal foreplay and sex, you will create an experience together that both of you can enjoy.

Watch porn together

Watch porn together to get new ideas for anal foreplay and sex. We admit it: porn is mainly about making your hottest fantasies come true and is not always realistic. There are some things about anal porn that you should never try at home. For example, using toys for anal stimulation and then inserting them into your mouth or vagina is not a good idea. And it’s also important to know that actors often stretch their anus before shooting a scene. But the great thing about porn movies is that you can get ideas for sex positions and tips for foreplay that you might not have thought of yourself. So get inspired and enact your sexiest fantasies with your partner.