10 variations on the missionary position

The missionary is one of the most pleasurable and well-known sex positions. It is sometimes labeled as boring or only suitable for beginners, but that’s not true! This position is perfect for kissing, licking each other’s neck and ears, and keeping eye contact. There is a lot of body-to-body contact, it can be loving as well as rough, and it provides that lovely feeling of your partner’s body on top of you. Create extra sensation with sex toys, by adjusting your movements, or by masturbating in a different way. Did you know that there are ten variations on the classic missionary position? We’ve listed them all below.

1. To the moon and back

Have you ever experienced something so good that if feels like you’re flying to the moon and back? That’s exactly what this variation on the missionary position will offer you. In this position, your partner pushes your legs upwards and takes hold of your ankles when they start penetrating. They bend your legs and push them to your chest or put them on their shoulders. The best thing about this sex position is that it allows for deep penetration.

2. Gliding missionary

Before having sex, rub lubricant or massage oil all over your bodies. Tonight, everything is about gliding on and enjoying each other’s bodies. Don’t worry about making a mess. This missionary position is enjoyably wild and rough. The lubricant or oil on your body makes it more difficult to stay in the right position, but that’s what makes it fun. Want to keep your bedding clean? Use waterbased lubricant (which doesn’t stain) or put towels on your bed. There are also waterproof sheets that are specially designed to protect your bedding or floor from lubricant and massage oil.

3. Do it in slow motion

The missionary position becomes super intimate if you do it in slow motion. Take your time, put on sexy music with a slow beat, and consciously take everything in. How does it feel when the tip of your partner’s penis or strap-on touches you? Can you feel your partner slowly penetrating you? Slow it down even more or pause for a moment when one of you is about to come. Caress, squeeze, kiss, and tickle. Experience the moment together and enjoy the intensity.

4. Raise the missionary

If you’re a fan of deep penetration, there is a simple trick you should know to make the missionary position even more enjoyable. Put a pillow under your bum, so it pushes your hips upwards. This allows your partner to penetrate more deeply. It’s a small adjustment that makes a huge difference. This trick is also recommended for men with a smaller penis or a micro penis.

5. Sideways variation

If you’re a man or have a male partner with a large penis and deep penetration isn’t always that comfortable, the sideways missionary position is a great choice. By lying on your side, penetration automatically becomes less deep. If you’re the one being penetrated, lie on your back and turn your hips about 45 degrees. This twists your body and your partner can penetrate you from the side.

6. The X-spot: your body in a twist

Besides the G-spot and the A-spot, there is also the X-spot. Lie on your back and spread your arms, creating an X-shape.  Your partner floats above you, as if their doing push-ups. Let your body bounce along to the rhythm, close your eyes, and look at your partner every now and then to watch their facial expressions. Want to bet that this provides an arousing tingling sensation?

7. Cat in heat: for heterosexual and lesbian couples

In this variation on the missionary position, the penetrating partner glides forward, so their hips are above yours. When your partner is inside you, they can push their pubic bone against your clitoris. Let them move in circles or softly move up and down or back and forth. Try anything that feels good.

8. Hanging missionary

Compared to the standard missionary position, this variation only requires a small adjustment, but provides a completely different experience. If you’re the receiver of penetration, lie on your back with your shoulders and head over the edge of the bed.  This way you can easily turn and bend to change the angle. It makes deep penetration possible, you can easily adjust the stimulation, and you feel completely free.

9. Lock it

If you push your legs together while in the missionary position, both partners will experience more pleasure. For a man, it makes penetration very enjoyable, because his penis glides through his partner’s legs and labia or buttocks with every thrust. This position is also great for all you lazy people out there: if you tense your whole body, like a plank, you are in complete control. You don’t have to move, but you can control everything.

10. Throw your legs over those shoulders

Completely surrender to your partner by throwing your legs on their shoulders. This missionary variation is particularly sexy, because it shows how much you long for your partner. It allows for deep penetration and also makes G-spot stimulation possible. Use your free hands for extra sensation: using sex toys, caressing, stimulating etc. Go wild with all these variations on the missionary position.